Your life is changing. You’re going through a divorce, or a breakup your children are adults and you realize you could be alone.
Maybe you join a dating website to find other singles who may be going through the same life changes you are. You have a mutual upset and connect. One chat leads to another. Phone numbers are exchanged. The texting begins.
Before you know it, you are meeting this person. You are excited and feel so good about yourself. You feel like you’re in High School again. Remember what it was like to go on your first date? For some of you, it may have been decades ago. Let yourself be happy, nervous and aroused.
But before you do meet, make sure to follow some basic rules; and make sure to share your concepts upfront with your date.
Start by meeting in a public place
Even if you’ve been talking to this person for weeks or even months you don’t really know the person well enough yet so meeting in a public place will give you some time to get a feel for them in a safe space.
Tell someone
Make sure someone you trust knows where you are, and even who you will be with. Just another safety measure. Maybe you can even pull the old ‘phone call from someone important’ routine. Have your trusted friend call you at a certain point just to check in.
Always come prepared
It’s always important to be prepared for a sexual encounter. You need to rely on yourself even if the other person promises they have it covered. In all the excitement and anticipation, sometimes people forget the little details. You don’t want to find yourself in a situation where you must stop right in the heat of the moment.
Spicing it up prior to the meet up
Let yourself loose and have a little phone sex. Hype up the meeting. Get yourself as well as the person you’re meeting riled up. This will make the meeting (when ready) for a private setting that much more exciting.
Live your fantasy
Have you always had a fantasy that your ex-spouse wasn’t interested in doing? Why not bring up the idea with this person? Sometimes it’s easier to play out this fantasy with your hook-up buddy. You may feel less restrictive and more comfortable.
Keep open lines of communication
Stay in touch with the person. Maybe make this a weekly or monthly meeting. This allows you the chance to live out some pent-up fantasies, develop a new friendship and have some lovin’. Plus, as the relationship progresses, you can spice up your sex life even more. You don’t have to keep the meeting solely to your re-acquaintance. You have a fantasy, and chances are your new partner shares the same idea. Talk about it and if you do, why not go one step further. Find a third person to share the newfound relationship with.